I read an article on CNN last week, but the link no lonver works 
It was about single, educated, financially stable black women who can’t find suitable mates and turn to adoption to start families without fathers. My initial reaction was “Has it gotten this bad?” and then I come back to reality and say, well, yeah it has. I say good for them, just because the men around you are too busy sewing oats to settle down, doesn’t mean you have to miss out on the joys of being a mother/parent.
I wonder if I would be happy doing that. I guess happiness is relative. You don’t love a child or relate to them in teh same way that you do a spouse. And I suppose none of those women want to go it alone (or any single mother for that matter) but you deal with the hand that life tosses you.
Adoption is a beautiful thing. When I was little I wanted a rainbow coalition in my home… but now I don’t know. .. I think interacial adoption or even adopting a child outside your own culture is awesome, but I worry for the children… You have to really be careful about the sort of living situation you place them in so they don’t feel out of place . Love does not conquer all, and if you don’t understand what your Asian/Black/Latino child goes through then you can mess them up emotionally, I think.
Plus I don’t know what I would about religion and culture altogether. I don’t know how I would feel about having a little girl/boy who had their parents not died would have been Budhist, Hindu, Bahai etc. but now they are with me and have to turn their backs on that aspect of their ethnic/cultural identity…. I guess that speaks back to the interracial thing… Ok, enough thinking about these phantom children… back to work I go.
