Hey at least I’m off the subject of love and marriage!…lol.
When I was in Qatar, I used to watch the telemundo series, el Clon with some of my friends. El clon is obviously about reproductive science technology, but it was also pretty silly… so of course we laughed about so many things along the way from the way the “mad scientist” character said “los embriones” to some of the characters complete lack of knowledge about invitro fertilization.
But you know who wasn’t laughing? one of my A-rab friends… I realized that she didn’t get the jokes because although she is a university aged student in the science field, she has no real idea about how babies are made!
I asked one of my friends point blank, what are you guys told about the wedding night and your relationship with your husbands. She replied “Well, my mom says on your wedding night, your husband is going to want to do things to you. Don’t be afraid!”
I was stunned! hearing something like that would make me vary afraid. Couple that with the fact that porn is quite big here (the Arab/Muslim world— not that people everywhere don’t indulge in it) among the male population and you have a veeeeeeeery big problem… Couples coming together each side with very different expectations and understandings of what sex is! For example, heard from some Doctor friends of women going to the emergency room because they’re hip bones were fractures on the wedding night! It could be the result of an overzealous groom, or it could be that some people are anxious to try out something they saw on some porn site….
I had a very candid conversation with an Egyptian woman today on the topic, and was surprised to find that the situation is much the same as it is for my friends in Qatar… She has no idea about anything, I mean nothing. In fact, all she knows is that it’s important to remain a virgin until marriage…. but she doesn’t really know what it means to be a virgin!
I didn’t know whether to laugh or to cry… I explained to her that where I’m from in the states people learn that stuff in health class, from a scientific perspective. Here, everything is shrouded in secrecy, it’s too taboo to talk about.
Some of my friends and I have jokingly noted that we could make a killing by teaching sex-ed courses. I of course refuse to the be cause of chaos in someone else’s country, so NO one is learning anything from me. My Egyptian friend wanted to know where she could find out about that stuff, I told her it’s not my place to say. She might end up asking a married friend (asking her mom would be taboo)… I hope she finds what she’s looking for… to bad I can’t help…lol…
So there we have it, interesting to say the least, they play it off really well though. I remember trying to explain to my friend why it’s actually the male that’s responsible for determing the sex of the child, using very basic high school bio and pugget squares with XX for the mom XY for the dad. Of course talk of sperm and eggs came up, and I stopped and asked, wait a minute, do you know what sperm is?…. her reply, no but I get your point, male characteristics and female characteristics….Or she knows that men watch “bad films” but has no idea what is on these films.
I never expected people to be the most knowledgeable about these things, but I was really surprised to realize just how little these girls know.
At any rate, there are certainly more important things on the Egyptian people’s plates than sex education…. so things will probably stay as they are.
Egypt continues to be حاجة ثانية خالص (something else)…